Ok, If I understand correctly, your site is :
http://www.girlsonthego121.com
The admin for that website is
http://www.girlsonthego121.com/wp-admin
But when you try to login at
http://www.girlsonthego121.com/wp-admin
it doesn't recognize your username and then if you reset it, it takes you to:
http://girlsonthego121.wordpress.com/
Is that correct?